Psychologist, Life Coach, and Consultant
As a psychologist, I generally start by helping people get really clear about who they are and what they want to create and experience. What are your dreams? What is going on in your life that you would like to change? What do you want to create? Then, we look at the blocks and obstacles to success whether in close relationships, career, or both. Because of our conditioning, many of us struggle to create a life that is truly authentic to who we are and who we are capable of being. These blocks often include negative patterning, limiting beliefs, poor habits, and underlying fears and insecurities. As we work through these issues, people begin to take more focused action toward their goals and desires. There is no substitute for being “in the game” by taking tons of action! The next step is to “tweak” the action by getting feedback along the way. Are you on the right track? What do you need to do differently to become more efficient or effective? How can you make it more fun along the way? The fourth step is to look at our resistance to true success. Many “successful” people have underlying self-sabotaging patterns that we only become aware of later in life. Tiger Woods and Elliot Spitzer come to mind. These self-sabotaging and resistance patterns must be addressed. The last step, once you know you are on the right path, is to persevere “beyond belief.” Learning to persevere comes natural to some and is often a muscle that needs to be built for others. In the process of creating your dreams, you will begin to feel better, become more authentic and creative, and your self-esteem will rise. In addition, little things will matter less and less. Instead, you will stay focused on the big picture and not allow others to knock you off your path. This is when life starts to become amazing!
As a consultant, I do many of the same things I do as a psychologist, however in a business setting. There are many businesses that run with poor communication and far less than optimal synergy. In business, we often re-create the dynamics of our family systems just as we do at home. Thus, a company run by a manager with underlying patterns of fear and negativity will ultimately create an environment in which fear and negativity prevail. Business owners and executives who are more conscious and thus aware of who they are and what they are communicating tend to create environments in which employees can thrive. As a consultant, I come into an organization and address underlying patterns that create mixed messages and mixed incentives. Often there is a gap between what the leader communicates and what the front line people understand. This gap can cause all kinds of problems over time. Great communicators are aware of the impact their words have on others. Great leaders do two things fundamentally well. They know how to connect deeply and challenge the “hec” out of their people. By having high integrity, being authentic, compassionate, and understanding they develop trust. Their employees feel both cared about and safe enough to bring their concerns forward. This sets the stage for motivating their people to produce phenomenal results. Employees who feel deeply engaged in the “game of business” and enjoy and respect their teammates have a high incentive to produce!
As a life coach, I teach others how to live and create lives that are so fulfilling and rewarding, others might consider them “magical!” The essential components of a great life are; purpose, passion, and perspective! If you don’t feel like you are on the right path, your life will never be great. Everyone has a unique set of talents and abilities. The key is to express those in this lifetime! I help others discover their purpose and express their talents and in the process assist others to do so as well. As you create, you give back. This spawns phenomenal “karma.” To live without passion is like going through the motions of life, or in other words just getting by. Unfortunately, many people give into this pattern. An amazing aspect of discovering your purpose is that passion is often unlocked as a result! When I discuss perspective, I am referring to the underlying filter through which we look at life. Becoming positive, gracious and understanding, as well as focused, fun and real, requires us to change our filters. Negative filters such as; “life is hard”, “people suck” or “I’m not good enough” impede our ability to create the life we want and were born to experience. Instead, you will learn, to be as present as possible, avoid nothing, and perform to the best of your ability.
The greatest athletes in the world all rely upon the help of a coach to elevate their game. Are you ready to take your game to another level?
dr. brett denkin
