dr. brett denkin is a business and life coach and psychologist whose hybrid practice has helped thousands of executives, entrepreneurs, and individuals for over 15 years. 
On the Balance between Being and Doing…
On the Balance between Being and Doing: dr. brett playfully discusses the pitfalls of too much doing and not enough being, vice versa, and the ramifications.
Effective Communication
EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION is an art that requires a great deal of balance and intuition. Think before you speak, develop the discipline not to lash out, and a plethora of solutions will unveil.
Communicating effectively is an important element to success in both our personal and professional lives. Most people struggle with good communication and this is largely due to the way we were raised. In school we study math and science, but rarely do we study communication. As adults very few of us remember trigonometry or calculus and yet we live in a world in which communication is the foundation for all relatedness. Successful relationships lead to success in business and life. To communicate effectively we must become aware of our intentions, our desires and the impact of our words and most importantly our non-verbal behavior. Many studies suggest that the vast majority of communication is non-verbal. Therefore we must learn to be consistent both in our words, our thoughts, and our actions. This takes time, patience, and practice.
Communication can just as easily create or resolve problems. Therefore paying attention to our delivery is the difference between moving forward with an idea and getting your partner(s) on board or alienating him (them). It’s important to be clear when communicating an idea or feeling, and it takes a great deal of practice and courage to do so. Even though we run the risk of being misunderstood, and sometimes inviting defensiveness and hostility, it is essential that we consistently create the opportunities to have pragmatic dialogue with our life or business partners. This is often difficult and sometimes may not work at all, however, the experience of trying, practicing, and getting feedback will eventually lead to mastery. Simply said, create a safe environment for others to express themselves freely so that we may experience a two-way conversation. In the most extreme scenario, sometimes being unable to communicate effectively after several tries may result in walking away temporarily or permanently.
On Taking Care of Yourself in Relationships…
On Taking Care of Yourself in Relationships: dr. brett discusses the importance of self-expression.
On Who You Are…
On Who You Are: dr. brett talks about knowing who you are and what you are about in order to create and experience what you want in life.
On Ego versus Spirit…
On Ego versus Spirit: dr. brett offers insight onto the pitfalls of extreme ego and learning how to incorporate a healthy spirituality to bring out your unique skills set and talent.
Self Sabotage
SELF-SABOTAGE is an unconscious pattern in which we interfere with our success. Depending on our upbringing, many of us are conditioned to feel unloved and unworthy. Later in life these feelings become the barriers that prevent us from experiencing lasting success. Bringing awareness to these feelings allows us to let them go and enjoy the possibility of being prosperous.When we have these subconscious beliefs it’s like having landmines in the subconscious. At some point we are vulnerable to blowing ourselves up or doing damage. We all have blind spots and sometimes we need others to point those out. This is where it’s really important to find the right guidance coaching. The wrong guidance can make things worse. We’ve all taken advice from someone who was seemingly well intentioned and ultimately caused harm, in part because they were projecting their own biases and conflicts onto us, or their perception was off, or they had only part of the story. Regardless it’s really important to find the right guidance.
Intention
INTENTION is about harnessing and organizing thought, leading to greater action. It is a level of determination that is beyond goal setting. The stronger our intention is, the greater the result. Intention is about taking consistent action.
TIPS ON FOLLOWING THROUGH WITH OUR INTENTIONS:
- set the intention
- review the intention based on feedback
- systematically eliminate distractions
- take consistent action to accomplish the intention
Creativity
CREATIVITY is a product of our imagination and our ability to take action and experience the world in new and diverse ways. Creative people learn to move through inhibition rather quickly, rolling through the ups and downs or everyday life. It is about allowing our imagination to soar so that we may experience a richer life.
Distractions
DISTRACTIONS are anything that take us away from joy, creativity, and abundance. Distractions manifest in a number of ways. Sometimes they show up as fears, dramas, and insecurities. Other times they show up as addictions and bad habits. Hostility directed at a friend and fighting with a family member are two examples of behaviors that distract us from staying on course, and experiencing peace, prosperity, and love.
Arguments will occur and it is important to recognize how wasteful they can be. Simply said, when we argue we lose precious time and energy that could be focused on creating what we want. The most successful people in life, rarely ever give into drama. Instead they focus their energy on their goals and are persistent in attaining them.
Anger Management
ANGER MANAGEMENT especially in today’s environment of financial stress is another key aspect of creating a successful life. The question becomes when is it okay to express your anger and when is it inappropriate. The answer lies in part with how you express your anger and in part within the context of the situation. Lashing out is never okay. It often creates lasting harm. Sometimes it’s helpful to express your anger directly, and sometimes that’s not possible.
You can beat it out, shout it out, and cry it out, but at the end of the day there is no more effective solution than getting hyper-focused and determined in creating the life your want. The more energy you put into the creation process and the more success you feel, the less past wounds and traumas will negatively impact your daily life.
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