Communicating effectively is an important element to success in both our personal and professional lives. Most people struggle with good communication and this is largely due to the way we were raised. In school we study math and science, but rarely do we study communication. As adults very few of us remember trigonometry or calculus and yet we live in a world in which communication is the foundation for all relatedness. Successful relationships lead to success in business and life. To communicate effectively we must become aware of our intentions, our desires and the impact of our words and most importantly our non-verbal behavior. Many studies suggest that the vast majority of communication is non-verbal. Therefore we must learn to be consistent both in our words, our thoughts, and our actions. This takes time, patience, and practice.

Communication can just as easily create or resolve problems. Therefore paying attention to our delivery is the difference between moving forward with an idea and getting your partner(s) on board or alienating him (them). It’s important to be clear when communicating an idea or feeling, and it takes a great deal of practice and courage to do so. Even though we run the risk of being misunderstood, and sometimes inviting defensiveness and hostility, it is essential that we consistently create the opportunities to have pragmatic dialogue with our life or business partners. This is often difficult and sometimes may not work at all, however, the experience of trying, practicing, and getting feedback will eventually lead to mastery. Simply said, create a safe environment for others to express themselves freely so that we may experience a two-way conversation. In the most extreme scenario, sometimes being unable to communicate effectively after several tries may result in walking away temporarily or permanently.

TIPS ON FOLLOWING THROUGH WITH OUR INTENTIONS:

1. set the intention
2. review the intention based on feedback
3. systematically eliminate distractions
4. take consistent action to accomplish the intention

Arguments will occur and it is important to recognize how wasteful they can be. Simply said, when we argue we lose precious time and energy that could be focused on creating what we want. The most successful people in life, rarely ever give into drama. Instead they focus their energy on their goals and are persistent in attaining them.

You can beat it out, shout it out, and cry it out, but at the end of the day there is no more effective solution than getting hyper-focused and determined in creating the life your want. The more energy you put into the creation process and the more success you feel, the less past wounds and traumas will negatively impact your daily life.